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My 6-year-old has been sat on her own in class because she can be disruptive (ADHD). Is isolating her when all the others sit in pairs the correct approach?

Its Absolutely not the correct approach. It will make her feel different and she's at risk of either self isolating due to shaming or becoming further disruptive to get attention to fit in. Either way her self esteem could deteriorate rapidly. That approach in my view is a very uneducated approach to your child's neurodifference.

Children with ADHD are very bright and she could be bored with the pace or not like the teacher, (not surprising) also I see a pattern that children with ADHD perform better in a subject if they feel safe, accepted and liked. Perhaps some of the subjects bore her too. Give her the subjects that suit her and there is a chance that she could become hyperfocused with interest. Do not ask an ADHD to do what they do not wish to do. There will always be resistance if they perceive control.

Generally they like creative type subjects that yield timely results. Subjects that don't keep them confined as they like to move about and be interactive if possible I.e. art, drama, woodworking, technical graphics, home economics, PE, and subjects like maths, engineering etc because there is a logical answer, this gives them gives them immediate feedback and results. They are impatient. So they must be provided with subjects that are stimulating and not get into trouble for this need.

These young people nurtured correctly are the entrepreneurs of our future if they are nurtured correctly. If not they will drop out and may never find their niche in life due to low self esteem and boredom. The prisons are full of these young people as its well documented the higher the intelligence with ADHD the higher the addiction.

I would encourage you to seek the correct education for your child with people who understand ADHD. Make sure she gets to study the subjects that suits her so that she has a better chance of thriving.

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