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What advice would you give to a child who is the scapegoat for a narcissistic parent?

Knowledge is the key. I wish I had understood and could put a name on the dynamics of narcissism growing up as a kid. I was lost and confused and my innerself was destabalised.

This child is likely to be gaslighted and I recommend that she watches Lisa A Romano's short simple podcast on the subject.

It will give her iideas on how she can protect herself from this abuse and not dump on herself or be destabilised in any way

Another very helpful resource is ACOA"s laundry list. This will validate her experiences. There is also a second laundry list on how how she will have improved as she works on herself

If she cannot afford a therapist that understands these dynamics there are support groups for young people like Alanon which will be a great help because the narcissistic parent is behaving like a dry drunk.

Finally she could tell a counselor or teacher she trusts in school what is happening. Exposing the narcissist is their greatest fear.


‘Margaret without your help over the past few weeks I don’t know what I would have done. I feel professionals do not see the whole story. If young people who had ADHD understood it they would not feel worthless, stupid, panicked, leading to anxiety and horrible thoughts of self -harm’

Mother of a 21 year old ADHD Male who attended the sessions with her son
Oct 15, 2018

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